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i am literally currently shopping for presents AS I TYPE, so once again, i'm kind of convinced you're a little bit psychic. this is so perfect. thank you rayne, queen of gifts and the internet

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Inspired (sort of) by last year's list, i am currently trying to put together a cookbook email advent calendar with personal stories and messages mixed in. Last year, I was the first of my circle of friends to move out from my parent's house so this is pulling double-duty as older sister how to live advice content. I am also knitting up a storm and trying a little embroidery design.

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two things:

1) incredible guide, thanks so much for gifting it to us!!! it’s the quite the serendipitous happenstance that you posted this right after i hung the driable flowers that my friend brought me at our last dinner - i sent them a picture of those flowers in their new spot earlier today! we were both very excited, so thank you for solidifying the significance of that shared moment ❤️

2) this isn’t for the holiday season, but my mom’s birthday is coming up in a few months, and i’m already thinking about the gift i want to give her. for about five years now, she’s been leading this community project of well-building in our home country. i was thinking of asking my graphic designer friend (who also happens to love my mom) to create an artistic map with pinpoints on all the wells’ locations, then i’d have it framed!

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I pretty much always think maps are a good idea. It might also be cool if you found someone who could maybe draw it in a fantasy style!

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Old Root Studio (Carla) on etsy made me an amazing map for my partner of the Boundary Waters with a specific part he loves circled. Definitely recommend.

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I’ll have a look at their work, thanks so much for the rec!!!

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ooooh that’s a cool idea, thanks for the suggestion!

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Most joyful gift I have given (to multiple loved ones in my life) is a copy Devotions by Mary Oliver with a heartfelt note and a sprig of some flower stuck inside to dry out over the years. Also a pinata filled with makeup, baubles, and handwritten notes.

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I love that ❤️ I got my friend All About Love for her birthday with notes on the section on friendship

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wait that’s actually such a great idea, i might steal it from you haha

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i bought devotions as a gift for a new friend earlier this year and it turned out that mary oliver was their favourite poet already! i love how her work resonates so deeply with so many people

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i think the best gifts are ones that are very specific to a person, even if they aren’t that complex or expensive. one of the best gifts i’ve given was to my dad and it was just a box full of black cherry kool aid mix. it’s his favorite flavor and he would always be disappointed if we didn’t have it, he found it hilarious but, he also ended up using all of it so it wasn’t purely comedic. so something as simple as their favorite food or drink is great. i also thing homemade gifts are awesome, especially if you don’t have a lot of money to spend. one of my brothers is a great artist and always gifts someone a drawing, another one of my brothers is great at building, so he often makes personalized furniture for people as a gift.

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Agree. Love this. My favorite gift was a written personal letter to my teenage niece. She loved it. Plus she wouldn’t show it to her mom (my sister) which was childishly satisfying 🤣🤣🔥🔥❤️

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PLEASE share your etsy favorited items!!

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For home cooks, I've sometimes gotten spice mixes from a local spice-and-tea shop that does their own custom blends. I have some family members who like trying out different international cuisines, so last year I assembled little gift baskets of four or five spice mixes based on different cultures' traditional foods.

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love love love these ideas im gonna think about that grape soap for weeks... its perfect. i literally love receiving any gift but specially music from ppl who let me ramble about it, some GOOD good food or just a personal detail r my faves. i like to gift just cute lil assortments of what ppl say they love when we hang out so i write those down whenever i can to build later. ty for another lovely post ♡

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ty for the cool list!

I once made my sister a christmas calender of bags of tea. I made this calender drawing on an big piece of paper, and then stabled tea bags to each day. I still think it was a great (and quite cheep) gift!

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Can't believe I made the gift guide 😭

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adding onto the fine foods, fancy fruit! a set of three perfect korean pears for $20 from hmart? amazing

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the tayste in that playlist makes me wanna cry and throw up I love girl community

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I don’t know how applicable this will be for anyone else but the best gift I can think of that I have received was from my best friend Liv. They got me a refurbished kitchen aid stand mixer when we were in high school. I was really into baking at the time - I still enjoy it a lot but I have less time for it as a college student. I had been hand mixing everything I made and it was just such a thoughtful and generous thing to do for a friend.

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I’ve been buying records for my parents because we recently got a family record player and they are starting to build a collection again. A really niche one I found though that I’m really excited to get them is coffee. I live in Oregon now but my family used to live in Alaska and my parents had their favorite local coffee there. It’s basically impossible to get but recently we were in a random family grocery store in the next town over and I found that favorite coffee being sold by the pound so I’m going to get them some. I’m really proud of what I found for my best friend too. One big part of our friendship is our shared taste in literature and as soon as we got phones one our first conversations was an argument in which we insulted each other in exclusively Shakespearean terms. I happened to see a Shakespearean insult mug in a bookstore so I’m going to gift it to her with some really nice tea. Another one I did a few years ago was a hand-drawn map of middle earth for my boss, who is a dear friend/surrogate grandfather to me, because we first bonded over our shared love of fantasy fiction. Gift giving is such a fun thing for me and I have to say, the thrift book subscription idea is absolutely genius. I may do something similar for my dad but with old records someday, and I’ll definitely do it for my best friend’s birthday

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Back to old-fashioned records: I love that! 🔥🔥❤️

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Nov 28, 2022·edited Nov 28, 2022

I always do handknit gifts every year, but honestly these are great for birthdays and such. Other easy gifts I've done in the past are locally roasted coffee, loose leaf tea (and a steeper if they don't have one!), and spice mixes. If they live close, home baked goods are great too. When all else fails, I offer to plan and pay for a night out - usually for my sister or parents. It's nice to not have to think or worry about plans for the evening, so I'm happy to do it for them. And the added bonus of spending time with them :)

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I just gave my bf a Stevie Ray Vaughn, Slightly Stoopid, and Modest Mouse CD as just an everyday gift. It’s great because the CD covers are really pretty as wall decor and the CD’s were all untouched!

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CD covers as wall decor can't believe I never thought of that!

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